Malingering’s World

7 Responses to “sometimes I look at couples…”

1. top: he fixed her computre
   bottom: he bought her gucci handbag

   a.b. - June 15th, 2008 at 2:19 pm

2. Sometimes I look at your pictures and comments, and I think, wow…

   I have really enjoyed many of your postings over the last few years. Your skill as a photographer is awe-inspiring, and you often raise interesting questions. From what you’ve shared, you appear to be beautiful, intelligent, well educated and multitalented.

   What concerns me is that you are apparently a healthcare professional and yet some of your comments lead one to believe you have very little insight into the physical and/or mental/emotional issues of the people you photograph. Here I’m not referring to the current photos, rather some of the morbidly obese subjects. I won’t try to share information about metabolic syndrome, as you are, no doubt, well versed in the subject. I would, however, suggest that you consider learning more about the emotional/psychological impact of the condition, and how you can better relate to these people who are clearly very different from you.

   What prompted me to write (finally) was that I believe that this posting (again) really does you and your subjects a disservice. When I look at the pictures and your comment, I assume, in the top photo, you’re query comes from the fact that the woman is thin and the man heavy. In the bottom, the disparity seems to be that the woman is taller than the man. Otherwise, the couples don’t seem (to me) to be remarkable. Is it your suggestion that relationships are (and should be) based on physical similarities? I did understand that your question was on a “totally superficial” level, but would you take the time and effort to post it if it wasn’t on some level a “real” question (i.e., part of a fundamental belief)? I think there are a lot more pertinent and interesting questions you can pose, that would be more reflective of your many talents and gifts.

   Thanks for the wonderful images you share. I look forward to enjoying many more.

   cestqui - June 16th, 2008 at 9:00 pm

3. I know you weren’t addressing me but it seems to me that Mal isn’t suggesting what relationships should or shouldn’t be based on. I think she’s just pointing out that it’s rare to see such disparate pairings. period. You’re the one who seems to be extrapolating a lot more out of it than was said.

   be OH be - June 17th, 2008 at 9:25 am

4. bo OH be - Thanks for your comment. It’s certainly possible that the intent here was to just point out “that it’s rare to see such disparate pairings”.

   However, that was the point of my question for the artist regarding her intent (”Is it your suggestion that relationships are (and should be) based on physical similarities?”). Other than some (in my opinion) fairly slight physical differences, the couples don’t appear disparate. So, if the accompanying comment arises from their physical appearance, the original comments stand. If I did not correctly understand the comment, it’s request for her input/explanation.

   Further, I’d like to say:
   a) I think she’s a talented artist, often posting intriguing and thought provoking work.

   b) Her websites allow/solicit comments. My opinions are just that, and my comments are kindly meant, so if you (or she) don’t find them useful, you’re free to disregard them.

   c) I believe one of the functions of art is to engender discussion.

   d) If we only ever hear input that confirms what we already believe, how do we continue to grow?

   The point of the above is that it seemed, from your closing comment, as if you felt the need to defend Mal from a perceived attack. It’s admirable that she has such loyal supporters, but an attack was not my intent. (Refer to a-d above.)

   Regards. La vie est trop court pour être petit.

   cestqui - June 18th, 2008 at 11:55 pm

5. I find it extremely interesting, from a sociological angle, how many people take offense with what it is that Mal does. You have to wonder exactly what kinds of personal issues the “offendee” is projecting when they come to Mal’s site or photostream and make their comments.

   Human nature is to make comments or even think comments about other people that are not the same as you. To NOT think something critical about someone else, whether it be their appearance, their culture, their background or whatever, is the oddity. And for anyone to claim that they don’t do so is just kidding themselves because we are hard wired to do so, no matter how much we try not to.

   Imagine how boring the world would be if we all thought the same and all agreed with each other. It’s like a baseball or basketball game with only one team and they win without playing all the time.

   That said, Mal sees things in her own humorous way (such as the pictures above). Some people may share her sense of humor while your mileage may vary. It’s a common theme we see here and on her stream often.

   Gonzo - June 20th, 2008 at 1:06 pm

6. 1. I’m so much more disgusted by the fact that he’s carrying her purse than by his weight.

   2. Are you merely talking about the height difference here? Because they don’t seem that mismatched attractiveness-wise too me.

   Lina - June 22nd, 2008 at 8:25 pm

7. He’s carrying her purse. So she got jacked over by some super-hot douchebag and decided to go for a nice guy.

   OR

   They used to be the same, until he got addicted to haagen daz and she got addicted to crunch fitness

   OR

   she used to be really big and got gastric bypass and became obsessed with working out

   more likely

   he’s rich and hung and she’s just psycho enough that normal guys run away.

   Anonymous - June 25th, 2008 at 5:57 pm

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